The story of the messed up, insanely busy life of a single mother who lost herself somewhere along the way. Follow along with my quest to find me, learn to say "no", keep my sanity, and make life better and more enjoyable for not only myself, but my children and those around me.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Roadblocks
On the up side I made a new twitter friend today who honored me by using me as inspiration for his blog post today! Check out Deryl Sweeney II over at 2East: The College Living Blog. Stop by his website to check out all of the cool dorm living ideas also! Makes me (almost) wish that I were young enough to live in the dorms again. We all have our own roadblocks in life. Heck, I create half of my own roadblocks just through my procrastination! What do you do when you approach a roadblock? Do you give up, do you go around, or do you crash right through?
More Silver Linings with Less Storm Clouds
Amazingly I am feeling so much better about this return to college now. Even though I STILL have not heard back from college #2 (am really trying not to let the bitter rivalries of the colleges sway may feelings towards college #2, it's hard though, being raised to be the bunnies fan that I am). Some of the better feelings may be my effort to follow through on this. I found Schmutzie's post through Chantal at Bread Crumbs in the Butter. I've been far too bitter lately and need to turn that frown upside down (okay that was really corny but seriously, I need to be more silver linings than storm clouds).
Today I choose to find grace in the small things. Such as:
~College #1 assigning my cousin as my advisor.
~My car that starts even when the temperature is -30 (that's right 30 BELOW zero!)
~Mr. Irony for not booting us all out because we're so insanely annoying.
~Having a job that provides health insurance at a fairly reasonable rate.
~Hugs before the kids head out the door to school.
Can you find some grace in the small (and not so small) things?
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Online Registration Frustrations
Of course it couldn't be that easy, right? Right.
I innocently assumed that since both universities operate under the same umbrella that I would be able to register for both at the same time. Apparently it doesn't work that way. The online form would not allow me to submit until I removed the offending universities courses (damn college rivalries, it even holds sway on the internet!). That done I proceeded to hit submit, still swooning over the fact that I would be registered and could go purchase (outrageously expensive) textbooks tomorrow!
EPIC FAIL! Here is the lovely little blurb I received upon hitting the submit button:
Yeah, um, what?! Do I not have a student ID number?! Was I not able to log in to the registration area in the first place?! State college you haven't sent me anything in regards to advisor, registering, or anything other than than a little email stating I could register using the web advisor when I inquired about registration a few weeks ago. Back then would have been a good time to tell me that it wouldn't work when I attempted it. Just saying.
I sent an email (or two or three) off to the registration department but as I know they are all over in the main gym today processing on-campus semester payments/etc. I highly doubt I'll hear back from anyone in a timely fashion. Guess I may be making a trip tomorrow to the old alma mater to see what a gal has to do to be able to hand over her money for their (outrageously priced) classes.
Grrr. Happy Hump Day!
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Changing Plans
So 2009 is upon us and I'm nowhere further ahead than I was in 2008. I'm still procrastinating and playing ostrich with my finances. I'm not in school nor progressing towards a degree of any kind. I'm still "The Procrastinator". But I have chosen a new word for this year. That word is ACTION. Change is all well and good, but it's a new year and something needs to propel those changes. That would be where ACTION comes in.
By playing "The Procrastinator" I have effectively locked myself out of being able to register for those prerequisites that I need for nursing school. I applied to two schools and school number 1 (my alma mater) was right on the ball, accepted me, and I'm good to go. Except for the fact that the courses I need this spring are either only offered on campus (2 hours of driving each day) or the internet sections are full. School number 2 (the rival of my alma mater - old loyalties die hard folks when you grow up a died-in-the-wool bunnies fan) is even more of a procrastinator than I am! I sent in all of the paperwork 2 months ago, sent in their request for more paperwork three weeks ago, and still have not heard anything! School number two does have some open internet sections for what I need, plus one course that is located nearby for which the internet section is full. Classes start on Thursday meaning I'm really behind the curve on this. What's a gal to do now?
My lovely little plan was to be accepted for Spring of 2009, take all of those monster courses I need in one fell swoop, apply to the two nurses programs and see which (if any!) I was accepted into for Fall of 2009. That's most definitely not going to happen now. I forgot the rule of my life, which is, nothing EVER goes as I plan. So the plan is being tossed out the window and I'm flying by the seat of my pants now (what does that phrase mean anyway?!).
Since the word of the year is ACTION, I'm not going to sit around and wait to see if I can take everything this fall. I'm developing a new plan of sorts (I'm learning this is why people have back-up plans). I had originally thought that after I had my RN I would take the accelerated paramedics course and be an RN/paramedic. I'm thinking about reversing that strategy. There is a paramedics course starting next month (two nights per week for 11 months) and I'm going to apply. If I get in I'll take just a couple of prerequisites for nursing per semester and apply for RN school for the Spring of 2010 (which is what I'll have to do anyway now regardless of if I get in to paramedic school or not).
Why? Honestly, I can't see myself working as a patient care tech for the next 3 1/2 years while finishing RN school. Well, I could see it happening if the pay were higher, but it isn't. Right now I am dependent on the child support from Mr. Ex to pay the bills and since I consider him to be undependable (granted he has not missed any months but I can't count on that or him) I find it incredibly scary to think that the next 3 1/2 years of income are partially dependent on him. Paramedics in our area start out making as much as a 2-year (associates degree) RN. If I were to complete the paramedic course and be hired I would work the same amount of hours that I do as a tech but would make almost twice the pay. Considering that Anime enters high school next year, Actress hits middle school, and Action wants to play hockey, there's going to be a lot more extra expenses, not to mention the medical cost for Anime if it turns out that she does have lupus.
I am driven by money, or the lack thereof. Not a good way to be but I've spent so many years struggling for a financial security (which I promise I will eventually tell you about . . . it is an interesting and lengthy story) that I want to grasp for the next level up (income-wise).
I twittered about this recently and I don't think I made it clear that I'm not forgoing nursing school for paramedic school, just simply reversing the order. I know that nursing presents many more opportunities for advancement down the road. Of course, this is all contingent on being accepted, which I very well may not be. Then it's back to the drawing board, I guess. Good thing I'm a go-with-the-flow kind of gal.
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Astrological Predictions for 2009
I'm not a big believer in astrology but I thought it might be interesting to post what astrology.com predicts for me this year, and look back on it again this time next year.
Year 2009 Career
Since transformation and rebirth are manifesting in new realms for you this year, it's a good time to reflect on your deeper mission in life. As an Aries, you are a powerhouse of energy who enjoys being in charge and drawing upon your strong resources to forge ahead in the world. Allow the universe to support, transform and shift your career in order to remake yourself. You may be called upon to change the structure and let go of old energies, resistance and previous patterns of your professional life that no longer serve you. You realize how important it is to call back the parts of yourself that you have given away, and to bring back your own sense of dedication to higher ideals and your willingness to be a channel for healing yourself and society.
These changes will help you feel much more in control, grounded and supported as you start the year streamlining your focus in a more methodical way. This requires exercising a bit more patience than Aries usually likes. As you allow yourself to trust and recreate your path of heart and amplify your aliveness, fully express your visionary impulses and rediscover your unique structure of individuality.
Abundant thinking and a sense of community enhance your career -- and your enjoyment thereof. You gain power and the momentum needed to make a forward shift. Step into your authority and open your heart so that you may bring in new energy and manifest the results you desire. Your attitudes about success and taking charge of your life will evolve as you find a new sense of what you really want.
Year 2009 Romantic
Your love takes on a new dimension this year. Your relationships will be about balance and an even flow of give-and-take. Your friends will be very influential in helping your idealistic dreams manifest. Your enthusiasm for a better future will attract socially motivated groups, and you will meet some beneficial associations who are striving for a better world.
You have no problem starting new relationships, and are able to let go of connections that no longer serve you. You will move on with a pioneering spirit. Trusting your higher self provides the discernment you need to understand people's true motives and still maintain a healthy sense of self. Make conscious decisions regarding other people on a romantic level, and keep your hopes and dreams realistic.
A wonderful circle of love and unity surrounds you. In the summertime, your passion will attract a partner who makes you feel safe, and you will be able to love more deeply than ever before. You're willing to take risks for someone who is emotionally strong.
You feel so positive and uplifted that everything seems perfect, as if you are really tapping in to some great spiritual blessings. You will feel you need to establish some personal roots, and will find yourself thinking about home and family more than ever before. In October, you might find yourself desiring marriage, after a genuine deepening in your primary relationship.
Interview Me!
The rules are as follows:
Link back to the person you received the interview from.
If you want to participate, leave me a comment saying, “Interview me.” (And your e-mail address, please.)
I will respond by emailing you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
You will update your blog with the answers to the questions.
You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
My questions from LizSara are:
1) Do you think it's easier or harder to be an anonymous blogger and is there any reason you could think of to make you 'come out' on your blog? I find it hard being anonymous because I have to watch that I don't make any references to places or things that could reveal me. I can't share this part of my life with real life friends (although I have with a couple that I really trust). I can't share pictures of my life or refer to my writing around real life people. If you knew me it would be easy to connect the dots and figure out my identity, which is why I also worry about recriminations if certain people from my past were to stumble across my blog.
I'd like to think that I would reveal my identity if one of the people from my "past life" figured it out. I might also consider "coming out" if I were to have a huge following and be offered a book deal. Hey, I can dream right?! There's another Jen Lancaster out there somewhere! Why not me? ;)
2) Would you rather be where you are now having gone through hardships or have had an easy life but be unhappy in it? I'll definitely take where I am now with all of the roller coaster rides. I've lived in some neat places, met some cool people, and had more experiences than some people get in a life time!
3) What's your idea of the perfect getaway, where and why? The perfect getaway would include sunshine, warm ocean water, and quite possibly some ancient ruins to explore.
4) Name your best recipe Ha! Me, cook?! Okay, seriously, my best recipe is for scalloped corn. Take one can of corn, one can of creamed corn, add 4 tablespoons of flour, 3 to 4 tablespoons of milk, 2? teaspoons of baking powder, one egg (yolk and white beaten separately before adding), and pepper to taste. Bake at 350 degrees for 45 minutes to an hour. Of course, it's been well over a year since I made it and I currently can find the recipe!
5) If you had to give up blogging or give up reading other people's blogs which would you choose? That's tough. If I could still write (just not publish) I would choose to give up blogging. I love to read every one's posts in the morning with a cup of tea or coffee. It makes me feel connected to the world in some odd way.
So who's next?
Friday, January 2, 2009
Change
~quit my secure school based job
~moved to a new town
~entered into a new living situation with Mr. Irony
~took a job in health care (at a much lower rate of pay)
~legally changed back to my maiden name
~left behind some people in my life that just weren't good for me, psychically or spiritually
Lots of outward changes, yes, but I've been realizing that there weren't a lot of inward changes. I'm still afraid to speak my mind. I still run from confrontation. There is still so much negativity running through my brain. I still am running through life mainly on auto pilot because it takes too much to actually have to deal with anyone or anything. I still lack motivation to get things accomplished. I am still "The Procrastinator".
Somewhere along the way I've built up this burden of bitterness and the main target has been Mr. Ex. I know for my sake that I need to find a way to let it all go. I think I've accepted the fact that I stayed with him for those last years out of guilt and fear, brainwashed into thinking that he would take the kids if I tried to leave. I also didn't want to admit defeat. I was in love with the idea of what I wanted our marriage to be, but not actually loving the man I was married to. As I look back over our life together now I can see what a naive fool I was and how many ways and times I was taken advantage of. Even when his own family would point out how little he cared for us I refused to admit it. Part of the bitterness is that most of that same family has now welcomed him back with open arms because "he came back to be near and raise his kids". (Excuse me while I go gag). He spends two weekends per month with the kids. He did coach in the fall for Action's team but now hasn't set foot around for wrestling season. He keeps choosing women who don't seem to want our kids around.
See, I don't want to do this. I see all of that bitterness spilling out in the previous paragraph. I know that I need to just accept him for who he is (and isn't) and that he's never going to be the dad that our kids deserve. That doesn't mean he's a bad person, it's just not who I wanted him to be. I need to get over this bitterness towards him and focus on me. Because if I don't, I'm not going to get any motivation back nor be able to move forward. If I can't do that I might as well kiss nursing school goodbye because I won't be able to make it through the 18 credits worth of hard classes I have to do just to be able to apply (chemistry II, microbiology, epidemiology, anatomy/physiology, just to name four).
Once again or maybe still, I feel lost, drifting, as if I'm just marking time with no real purpose. And that, I think, is what needs to change in 2009. Finding the change within me. Finding me.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Holiday Tradition
I'm off now to wrap presents before heading off to the hospital while attempting to not channel Scrooge.
Happy Holidays!
Oh, here's a little something I forgot to add to my post over at Bart's!
Sunday, December 21, 2008
An Award and a Meme

Many thanks to LizSara for gifting me with this award! I'm not sure than I'm that deserving of it considering my lack of substantial (or any!) posting lately. Skip on over to visit my favorite Brit Blogger!
Here are the rules for this award: Pick 5 blogs you love and pass this award on to them as I pass it on to you. Don’t forget to link back.
I'm passing this one to 5 times 2 bloggers, one of whom gave it to me (because even though I lurk more than comment, i love to read her blog)! But I'm giving the award with a price . . . read on . . .
In other news, hold on to your hats folks! Diane over at the Mommy Diaries tagged me for this meme:
so you're going to get a glimpse of CelticBuffy, live and in person! (drum roll please . . .)
Yes, this is me, scrubs and all, just home from a shift at the hospital. Oh so lovely and tre chic! Green is a Christmas color so at least I fit with the season. LOL.
Not only do I tag these lovely bloggers, I'm also passing along the above award to them also (with an extra one going to Diane):
*Vanessa
*ModernGal
*Chele
*Emily
*Noodle
*Nichole
*Shania
*LizSara
*Bohemian Single Mom
*Juice Notlaw
*If you're reading this consider yourself tagged and post a link in the comments so that I can see you too! If you blog anonymously, like I do, be more creative than me in taking a photo while disguising yourself! Have fun! :)
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Bah Humbug
I need to break through this fog so that I can write again and at least be mildly entertaining. So, don't worry, I'm still here, still reading other blogs, and trying to sleep my way through December.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Creativity? What's That?
The new job is going well. It's crazy, exhausting, busy, demanding, and challenging but, wow, am I learning a lot! Talk about great preparation for nursing school! The physical activity of this job is seriously kicking my butt. My body feels like I've been beaten when I wake every morning. Perhaps a new mattress would help?
Anyway, I do like the job. I don't like the pay. I knew going in how much of a pay cut I'd be taking and am wondering how crazy I must be to voluntarily slash my income like this. Granted I'm paying for health insurance and that cuts some of the take home pay. I wonder, though, how finances are going to go over the next couple of years, especially with the mounting medical bills.
As for Anime, a rheumatologist in our area has accepted her as a patient. The downside is that we can't get in until April. The initial appointment is not one that can be easily scheduled as I've been informed that we can expect to be there for most of the day (appointment time is 8 AM). I'm still looking into rheumatologists outside of our area.
I feel as if my creativity has abandoned be as of late. My desire to write, or even dream, has fled for the time being. If you see it, send it back my way would you please?