Thursday, September 25, 2008

Cholesterol and Coffee Dates

As I expected, I did not receive good news at my heart-health screening. I won't get the EKG or CT scan results until sometime next week but I did get the following information: BMI (body mass index) 27.5; HDL level (good cholesterol) 27; total cholesterol level - 283. I wish you could have seen the nurse's face when she read my cholesterol level. Apparently she hasn't encountered that many 38 year old females with a cholesterol level nearing 300. Just this info makes me worry about what the rest of the results will be. Although, I can't say that I'm too shocked about all of this.

So, in response to this alarming new information, I'm going semi-vegan. Semi-vegan? I will be eating vegan but allowing myself the occasional temptation (such as real ice-cream). This is fairly easy since Mr. Irony is vegan and I'll eat whatever you put in front of me as long as I didn't have to cook it. We also went for a walk last night and I'll be taking up Pilate's again and am considering yoga.

On another front - my twitter friends are aware of a long-standing weekly coffee date that my SO has with a female friend that he met around the same time he and I met. This week I was finally able to attend that coffee date with him. I tried to be neutral, giving this woman the benefit of the doubt and thinking that I could possibly walk away with a new friend. FAIL! The only time she spoke to me was to say hello and then upon leaving to say it was nice to meet me. Her body language, dress, and conversation left me believing that she's into him. She kept the conversation on topics that they had discussed previously, never once addressing me, and I was just left stunned and frozen. Even with the encouragement of my dear twitter friends (yes I was twittering during this) I barely got out a few words.

I've been in the position of having a close male friend and when I've met his girlfriends I've done my best to ask questions, include them, and get to know them. She made no such attempts. In my opinion it was painfully obvious that she didn't want me there, in fact she acted as if I wasn't there.

I voiced these opinions to the SO. He was clueless as to all of the vibes I had picked up. He assured me that he had no dating interests whatsoever in her. In fact, if we break up he plans to move out of state and possibly out of the country (oversea's contractor type of gig). He said he's never picked up that she might be interested in him that way but admitted that he can be kind of clueless. He apologized for how I was left feeling. I did not insist that he stop meeting her for coffee because I don't believe in ultimatums like that. If someone did that to me, I'd probably dig in and do the opposite, just because. I do hope, now that he's aware of my feelings, that his outlook might change a little. He told me that the only contact he has with her is that coffee date and an email that she sends to set the time. We'll see what happens. If I'm not invited to any more of their coffee dates then we will have a problem. I will assert myself. For now I want to see how this goes. If I'm honest with myself it bothers me extremely. There's a lot more I could write about this but I'm running out of time right now.

For now, hope you have a great day, and will try not to mourn the loss of the pumpkin spice lattes, which have now been replaced (for me) with hot chai tea made with soy milk. Would it be heart healthy to have a pumpkin spice latte made with soy or would the taste just suck?

4 comments:

Shania said...

You are a fairer woman than moi. B!tch woulda been snatched bald. Just kidding, actually I would've pouted and stomped and insisted he NEVER acknowledge her again. But that's just me.

I'll throw myself under the truck for you (just for you!) and have your latte. You're welcome.

Kate said...

Pumpkin Spice Lattes with soy are delicious!! Over the past several months, I've gone vegetarian and decreased my dairy intake, and now I can't even stand regular milk anymore. Not even in pumpkin spice lattes.

I also discovered a FANTASTIC ice cream made with coconut milk at Whole Foods the other day -- it's called Purely Decadent. It's high in fat, but it's cholesterol-free and high in fiber!

Good luck, and you just might enjoy the veganism...I don't know much about eating for cholesterol, but I do know that eating a lot of fiber is good for that!

miwise said...

A doctor once told me that my cholesterol was high. We discussed my diet and decided that it was pretty muck okay. She decided that the culprit was probably chocolate and told me to stop eating it. I stopped going to her.

Noodle said...

I've been the female BFF, and she could have handled it so much better. Sucks. :(